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There are so many distractions in this world, people, things, and events that allow us to often not accept the truth about ourselves, family, friends, workplace, community, and things around us. Fooling oneself can be very easily done while fooling others is a bit more difficult. But why the big attempt to present ourselves as something we are not?

Are we well off financially, even perhaps wealthy? Are we attractive, well-educated, achieving souls?

In 2021 a survey of 400 people was carried out by Monster Future Work Outlook Magazine was carried out, finding some interesting results.

60% claimed to be experts in fields that they had basic knowledge only.
50% Time they were employed was often extended somewhat while giving false reasons for leaving.
45% made up of relevant work experience
39.3% claimed to have a degree from an ivy league university.

I can see why this happens. Taking every avenue possible to get that need another job.
What about how one appears to others? Need to be attractive, well-dressed, and much more than presentable right?

Some people go under the knife, with a little tuck here, and something bigger there. Some women wear red, show off their hips, and add highlights. Men wish to appear as taller, well-shaped fellas, showing off a sense of humor, a stronger pitch of their voice or perhaps growing a beard. Often for show and tell, attracting a mate, or trying to be one of the boys or girls. Owning a pet to attract others works well too, whether you like animals or not. The stories of our lives can be embellished, changed, and made more exciting. Many of us want to be like someone else, or better, fitter perhaps, but the hard work required to achieve these goals can be taxing, and show us that honesty first to ourselves and then others seems unwanted or unwise.

Ever seen an actress with age spots, wrinkles, or a prominent mole on their face? Why don’t they do something about these facial markings you may ask? How can they be happy with themselves, and how they look? Where is the temptation to pursue perfection in whatever form you may see yourself in?
The Big Lie is there for you to see. You may ask yourself if are you too selfish, arrogant, or greedy in fact. Wanting what does not exist is often a fool’s dream unless, of course, you are wealthy. Then you can be whatever you wish to be, even just yourself.

Skinny, Fat, Short or tall, near-sighted, blonde or red-haired, handicapped, muscular or not. Don’t we all come in all sorts of conditions, shapes, and sizes, presenting ourselves as best we can? We struggle to accept ourselves while attempting to live with others and their glances, criticisms, opinions, and attitudes. If we care what others think of us too much, our ego oppresses us, if the attitude of others is not our concern we may fall into a state of ill-repair socially, and physically too.

Going to a job interview is very challenging, and yet a perfect example of where you can show yourself in all honesty right? The boss finds out all in a period of time anyhow, so if you lie about this or that, the truth often comes out, thanks to social media and the internet. Carrying an imported Versace purse may fool some, but as soon as they see how and where you live, the truth is out. I once knew a family in the neighborhood, brilliant people, friendly but also not very social. Years later I find out they had two children on the spectrum. Their parents hid them away, half protecting them, halfway embarrassed of their condition. Imagine the years these children lost and the opportunities they could have had to develop friendships and have fun with others.

Truth can certainly set you free. It is challenging, and depressing at times, but also the tool that activates your soul to accept yourself, change your situation, and yet offer you the opportunity to change your life. Look within to understand yourself, always with an open hand to accept assistance along the way. After all, what are you here for? To help others who are in need, and help yourself too indeed.

Steven Kaszab
Bradford, Ontario
skaszab@yahoo.ca

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‘Disgraceful:’ N.S. Tory leader slams school’s request that military remove uniform

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HALIFAX – Nova Scotia Premier Tim Houston says it’s “disgraceful and demeaning” that a Halifax-area school would request that service members not wear military uniforms to its Remembrance Day ceremony.

Houston’s comments were part of a chorus of criticism levelled at the school — Sackville Heights Elementary — whose administration decided to back away from the plan after the outcry.

A November newsletter from the school in Middle Sackville, N.S., invited Armed Forces members to attend its ceremony but asked that all attendees arrive in civilian attire to “maintain a welcoming environment for all.”

Houston, who is currently running for re-election, accused the school’s leaders of “disgracing themselves while demeaning the people who protect our country” in a post on the social media platform X Thursday night.

“If the people behind this decision had a shred of the courage that our veterans have, this cowardly and insulting idea would have been rejected immediately,” Houston’s post read. There were also several calls for resignations within the school’s administration attached to Houston’s post.

In an email to families Thursday night, the school’s principal, Rachael Webster, apologized and welcomed military family members to attend “in the attire that makes them most comfortable.”

“I recognize this request has caused harm and I am deeply sorry,” Webster’s email read, adding later that the school has the “utmost respect for what the uniform represents.”

Webster said the initial request was out of concern for some students who come from countries experiencing conflict and who she said expressed discomfort with images of war, including military uniforms.

Her email said any students who have concerns about seeing Armed Forces members in uniform can be accommodated in a way that makes them feel safe, but she provided no further details in the message.

Webster did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

At a news conference Friday, Houston said he’s glad the initial request was reversed but said he is still concerned.

“I can’t actually fathom how a decision like that was made,” Houston told reporters Friday, adding that he grew up moving between military bases around the country while his father was in the Armed Forces.

“My story of growing up in a military family is not unique in our province. The tradition of service is something so many of us share,” he said.

“Saying ‘lest we forget’ is a solemn promise to the fallen. It’s our commitment to those that continue to serve and our commitment that we will pass on our respects to the next generation.”

Liberal Leader Zach Churchill also said he’s happy with the school’s decision to allow uniformed Armed Forces members to attend the ceremony, but he said he didn’t think it was fair to question the intentions of those behind the original decision.

“We need to have them (uniforms) on display at Remembrance Day,” he said. “Not only are we celebrating (veterans) … we’re also commemorating our dead who gave the greatest sacrifice for our country and for the freedoms we have.”

NDP Leader Claudia Chender said that while Remembrance Day is an important occasion to honour veterans and current service members’ sacrifices, she said she hopes Houston wasn’t taking advantage of the decision to “play politics with this solemn occasion for his own political gain.”

“I hope Tim Houston reached out to the principal of the school before making a public statement,” she said in a statement.

This report by The Canadian Press was first published Nov. 8, 2024.

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Sides in B.C. port dispute to meet in bid to end lockout after talk with minister

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VANCOUVER – Employers and the union representing supervisors embroiled in a labour dispute that triggered a lockout at British Columbia’s ports will attempt to reach a deal when talks restart this weekend.

A spokesman from the office of federal Labour Minister Steven MacKinnon has confirmed the minister spoke with leaders at both the BC Maritime Employers Association and International Longshore and Warehouse Union Local 514, but did not invoke any section of the Canadian Labour Code that would force them back to talks.

A statement from the ministry says MacKinnon instead “asked them to return to the negotiation table,” and talks are now scheduled to start on Saturday with the help of federal mediators.

A meeting notice obtained by The Canadian Press shows talks beginning in Vancouver at 5 p.m. and extendable into Sunday and Monday, if necessary.

The lockout at B.C. ports by employers began on Monday after what their association describes as “strike activity” from the union. The result was a paralysis of container cargo traffic at terminals across Canada’s west coast.

In the meantime, the union says it has filed a complaint against the employers for allegedly bargaining in bad faith, a charge that employers call a “meritless claim.”

The two sides have been without a deal since March 2023, and the employers say its final offer presented last week in the last round of talks remains on the table.

The proposed agreement includes a 19.2 per cent wage increase over a four-year term along with an average lump sum payment of $21,000 per qualified worker.

The union has said one of its key concerns is the advent of port automation in cargo operations, and workers want assurances on staffing levels regardless of what technology is being used at the port.

The disruption is happening while two container terminals are shut down in Montreal in a separate labour dispute.

It leaves container cargo traffic disrupted at Canada’s two biggest ports, Vancouver and Montreal, both operating as major Canadian trade gateways on the Pacific and Atlantic oceans.

This is one of several work disruptions at the Port of Vancouver, where a 13-day strike stopped cargo last year, while labour strife in the rail and grain-handling sectors led to further disruptions earlier this year.

This report by The Canadian Press was first published Nov. 8, 2024.

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Results expected in B.C. election recounts, confirming if NDP keeps majority

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VANCOUVER – Judicial recounts in British Columbia’s provincial election should wrap up today, confirming whether Premier David Eby’s New Democrats hang onto their one-seat majority almost three weeks after the vote.

Most attention will be on the closest race of Surrey-Guildford, where the NDP were ahead by a mere 27 votes, a margin narrow enough to trigger a hand recount of more than 19,000 ballots that’s being overseen by a B.C. Supreme Court judge.

Elections BC spokesman Andrew Watson says the recounts are on track to conclude today, but certification won’t happen until next week following an appeal period.

While recounts aren’t uncommon in B.C. elections, result changes because of them are rare, with only one race overturned in the province in at least the past 20 years.

That was when Independent Vicki Huntington went from trailing by two votes in Delta South to winning by 32 in a 2009 judicial recount.

Recounts can be requested after the initial count in an election for a variety of reasons, while judicial recounts are usually triggered after the so-called “final count” when the margin is less than 1/500th of the number of votes cast.

There have already been two full hand recounts this election, in Surrey City Centre and Juan de Fuca-Malahat, and both only resulted in a few votes changing sides.

A partial recount of votes that went through one tabulator in Kelowna Centre saw the margin change by four votes, while a full judicial recount is currently underway in the same riding, narrowly won by the B.C. Conservatives.

The number of votes changing hands in recounts has generally shrunk in B.C. in recent years.

Judicial recounts in West Vancouver-Sea to Sky in 2020 and Coquitlam-Maillardville in 2013 saw margins change by 19 and six votes respectively.

In 2005, there were a record eight recounts after the initial tally, changing margins by an average of 62 votes, while one judicial recount changed the margin in Vancouver-Burrard by seven.

The Election Act says the deadline to appeal results after judicial recounts must be filed with the court within two days after they are declared, but Watson says that due to Remembrance Day on Monday, that period ends at 4 p.m. Tuesday.

When an appeal is filed, it must be heard no later than 10 days after the registrar receives the notice of appeal.

A partial recount is also taking place in Prince George-Mackenzie to tally votes from an uncounted ballot box that contained about 861 votes.

The Prince George recount won’t change the outcome because the B.C. Conservative candidate there won by more than 5,000 votes.

If neither Surrey-Guildford nor Kelowna Centre change hands, the NDP will have 47 seats and the Conservatives 44, while the Greens have two seats in the 93-riding legislature.

This report by The Canadian Press was first published Nov. 8, 2024.

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