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THE ART OF THE KISS: Wordless way to say 'I love you' – Toronto Sun



And couples who pucker up tend to live longer

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There’s romance in the air, and we’re kissing up to Valentine’s Day.

It’s a given smooching is on everyone’s lips today.

But why do people kiss?

It’s love’s eternal paradox says New York writer Kevin Dwyer in his excellent little tome, Kiss and Tell, A Trivial Study of Smooching (Quirk). Although written a few years back, the book’s messaging is still current — much like remembering that first kiss.

“Kisses are the sweetest element of our cultural tapestry,” writes Dwyer, adding “a kiss is innocent here, erotic there.”

And, of course, a kiss is a wordless way of simply saying “I love you.”

Kissing conjures up profound feelings — of passion, heartache, love, despair. All in one kiss.

Sleeping Beauty cheated death with a kiss; Judas ruined everything with a kiss.

Kissing has been studied by scholars and writers and those just interested in knowing what makes for a good pucker. They say your eyes are the window to your soul, but your lips are the window to your heart — research shows lips are made up of 10,000 nerve endings, making them 100 times more sensitive than finger tips.

Plus a deep, passionate kiss releases endorphins to make one feel good all over.


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It is said the average person will spend 20,160 minutes kissing in their lifetime — French kissing can burn up to five calories in only a few seconds, so do the math and get in shape!

Plus French kissing can accelerate excitement by elevating blood pressure and increasing heart rate — truly making one weak in the knees!

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How important is a good kiss in a relationship?

According to biologist Sheril Kirshenbaum in The Science of Kissing, a couple who enjoys kissing “tends to have a more intense, healthier connection.” Studies show couples who kiss tend to live longer, too.

Why do we kiss at the end of a wedding ceremony? The custom can be traced to an ancient Roman tradition where a kiss was used to sign a contract.

Animals kiss. Even bread will kiss: Sometimes two loaves of bread will approach each other when baking and kiss. The spot where they unite is called the “kissing crust.”

Of course when you think of sweet kisses, you think of Hershey’s chocolate kisses — it takes 95 Hershey’s Kisses to equal one pound (500 grams) of chocolate!

Robert Doisneau’s famous Kiss by the Hotel de Ville Photo by Robert Doisneau /Robert Doisneau


Most eye-popping pop kiss: Madonna locking lips with Brittney Spears during 2003 MTV Video Music Awards.

Most uncomfortable spontaneous kiss captured on camera: Actor Adrien Brody holding the award-winning Halle Berry’s lips hostage in a truly cringe-worthy moment at the 2003 Oscars.

Most heart-melting kiss of pure passion: Famed French photographer Robert Doisneau’s famous Kiss by the Hotel de Ville showing two people embraced in a timeless moment, while strangers walk by. The photo is aptly named, The Lovers of Paris.


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Most heartbreaking kiss: Famed photographer Annie Leibovitz’s stunning portrait of a naked John Lennon embracing a clothed Yoko Ono for the cover of Rolling Stone magazine — a few short hours before he was assassinated.

A kiss before killing: The terrible betrayal of mob boss Michael Corleone (played by Al Pacino) by his brother Fredo (played by John Cazale) is revealed in a brutal kiss witnessed in the film, Godfather Part II.

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Gone With The Wind (1939): Clark Gable and Vivien Leigh’s lip-lock is probably the most merchandised kiss in Hollywood history.

From Here to Eternity (1953): One of the most iconic kissing moments in movie history between Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr, sprawled on a messy beach while the surf rolls over them!

Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961): Animal lovers everywhere cherish this spectacular kiss between Audrey Hepburn and George Peppard while a totally disinterested cat is nestled between them.

Lady and the Tramp: Pasta never tasted so good between these two endearing pooches.

Moonlight (2017) The unbelievably sensual kiss between actors Ashton Sanders (Chiron) and Jharrel Jerome (Kevin) certainly helped the movie achieve Best Picture status.

Splendor in the Grass (1961): The Oscar-winning film, starring Natalie Wood and Warren Beatty, made cinematic history with Hollywood’s first French kiss.


According to, “the longest kiss lasted 58 hours, 35 minutes and 58 seconds, achieved by Ekkachai Tiranarat and Laksana Tiranarat at an event organized by Ripley’s Believe It or Not! in Pattaya, Thailand, on Feb. 12-14, 2013.


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Give us a kiss! It’s Valentine’s day!

But — take that mask off first. It’ll just get in the way of a good time.

The masks everyone is wearing may be the main culprit for bad breath – the kiss of death for any romantic encounter.

So says Dr. Harold Katz – aka the Bad Breath Doctor: “Face coverings increase dryness in the mouth that encourages nasty bacteria to flourish in the tongue and throat. A dehydrated mouth can result in tooth decay, dry mouth, receding gum and bad breath.”

A definite romance wrecker. And, if you can smell bad breath while wearing your mask — you need to do something fast.

What to do? Maintain moist mouth at all times, says Katz

“When wearing masks, people tend to breathe through their mouths instead of their noses, and this also makes the mouth dry and decreases saliva. Also, when masked up, people tend to drink less water because of their reluctance to remove their masks in certain environments.”

Katz recommends avoiding foods and drinks that cause dry mouth, including alcoholic beverages, sugar, candies, onion, garlic, milk chocolate, dairy for lactose intolerance and coffee. Use a tongue scraper as well.

He also recommends drinking lots of water, eight glasses daily, to replenish lost saliva.


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Jury names winners in Art Exposed – Kamloops This Week



The jurors of Kamloops regional art exhibit Art Exposed have made their selections.

On Friday, three jurors made their picks for the Kamloops Art Council’s Art Exposed show in a variety of categories, including 2D, 3D split by emerging artists and established artists, and youth.

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Jurors this year included Kamloops-based artists Bill Frymire, Robin Hodgson and Debra Gow.

In the 2D emerging artist category, Carmen Teixeria-Derksen of Canoe took first place with Hope.

In second place was Jillian Beach of Kamloops with Circus of the Cosmos-II.

In the 2D established artist category, Edit Pal took first place with Wintertide, while second place went to Parm Armstrong for Pieces.

In 3D art, the winner of the emerging artist category was Mike Kehler of Kamloops for Guardian Muninn, with Jackie Jones’ Rocky Horror Game of Thrones or How it Should Have Ended winning second.

In the established artist category for 3D art, the winner was bronze sculptor Nathan Scott with The Window. Taking second place was Ed Jensen with Medicine Bird. Both artists live in Kamloops.

The youth category had one winner — Addysen Outerbridge won with Sutherland Falls.

Each first and second place winner will receive a $750 cash prize at the least, according to the KAC website.

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‘I paint for healing’: Indigenous art in the time of COVID-19 – TVO



This story was published in partnership with Journalists for Human Rights.

Michel Dumont, 53, remembers getting a new job when he was 29 and partying so hard in celebration that he missed his first day of work. Alcohol abuse was not new to him — he says it’s connected to intergenerational trauma. His mother had attended the Indian Residential Day School in Nipigon, where she received an education in colonial values. “For my mom, school taught her not to value herself or culture. School beat the Ojibway out of her,” he says. “And my mom tried the same with me and my sister. And I have trauma resulting from that — the trauma from Indian Day School carried on.”

Dumont, a queer, Métis, two-spirit man living in Thunder Bay, coped by drinking until he couldn’t feel or remember the pain. But missing his first day of work was a turning point. He promised himself that his thirties wouldn’t be like his twenties, and he began working toward sobriety. He got a job at a transportation company serving people with disabilities — a job that involved lifting the people he was transporting. He focused on work as a distraction from alcohol but pushed himself too far. “No one told me with pain you should stop,” he says. Now, he has a degenerative disc disease and near-constant back pain. 

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He has been connected to art since early childhood — his mother was his first teacher, and elementary teachers quickly recognized his talents. In grade school, his work was selected for a travelling exhibit. He even won the Queen’s Jubilee, a competitive art award from the local legion. He turned to art to cope with both his physical and emotional pain. “I learned that I’m only so young — I only have so much time left,” he says. “My pain-free hours, I could be creating work.” 

He had his mother’s Indian Day School classroom picture made into ceramic tiles. From there, he smashed it into broken pieces and remade it into a mosaic to honour the students. The piece now hangs on the walls of the Definitely Superior Art Gallery in Thunder Bay.

Today, Dumont is not letting the COVID-19 pandemic — or his back pain — prevent him from showing his art digitally in Paris, Vancouver, Toronto, and Montreal; he held his first solo show in Winnipeg last summer. And he’s not alone. Artists from across Turtle Island are finding innovative ways of staying connected, honing their skills, and managing to make a living creating art.

Wanda Nanibush, an Anishinaabe curator at the Art Gallery of Ontario, says the pandemic has reinforced the importance of Indigenous art. “I think it’s interesting that everyone is at home and everyone is isolated, and they immediately turn to art,” she says. “And I think that’s because art is a place we can get out of ourselves and beyond ourselves. Art has always been seen as part of healing. I wouldn’t say it can heal a pandemic — that’s impossible. That’s an actual physical thing. But it can heal some of the trauma of living through one.”

Giizis Soon Ikwe is an Anishinaabe woman from Kitchenuhmaykoosib Inninuwug First Nation, but calls Animikii-wiikwedong, Thunder Bay, home. Her English name is Leanna Marshall. She  works as an Indigenous counsellor and is currently enrolled in the Winnipeg Holistic Expressive Arts Therapy Institute. The diploma program is taught through an Indigenized lens and honours Indigenous knowledge and pedagogy.

According to Marshall, the Western model of counselling is an uneven playing field, with a “client” who has a problem and an “expert” who can fix it. In this Indigenous art-therapy model, Marshall says, when a student enrolls, “there’s already that assumption that they are carrying that wisdom within themselves to help with what it is they are looking for. That wisdom comes from them, but it also comes from that ancestral knowledge that we all carry as Indigenous people of this land.”

Marshall says that there is a heaviness to Indigenous stories but that she feels a shift among nations due to the acknowledgement of trauma. These days, she notes, she’ll often hear friends, family, or clients say, “Okay, that happened: Now how do we fix it for us, our children, and future generations?”

“You see this resurgence of language, you see a resurgence of traditional knowledge, and you see a resurgence of people out on the land and doing things that haven’t been done for years because of the residential schools,” she says. “Because all these policies have kept Indigenous people quiet and ashamed of who we are, but people are becoming really proud.”

Lucille Atlookan, a 31-year-old from Eabametoong First Nation, was always encouraged by relatives to doodle and draw. Their uncle gave them their first paint set. However, they also struggled with health issues and trauma stemming from a sexual assault. As a teenager, they moved to Thunder Bay to access mental-health care. Now, they’re working on managing their physical health. “I got really sick because of lupus and chronic kidney disease,” says Atlookan. “I was close to kidney failure so I changed my diet drastically and went back to beading and painting. I’m not a painter, but I paint for healing.”

Atlookan moved to Thunder Bay at 15 years old and now calls the city home. They became involved with the Definitely Superior Art Gallery and created the Neechee Studio — a space designed for young Indigenous people to learn traditional skills that was originally hosted in the gallery (it’s now operating virtually). Through Neechee, they realized they wanted to be a better role model to other young people new to the city. For Atlookan, that meant getting an education. “I took the Native Access Program [at Lakehead University] and found my passion. It was always art, but I found I wanted to be an arts educator,” they say. Today, Atlookan is working toward concurrent honours bachelor degrees in fine art and education.

Atlookan is also learning how to run the studio’s arts programming. “For a long time, [Neechee Studio] wasn’t exactly run by Indigenous youth. I didn’t know how to run it — I was really shy and modest about it,” they say. “But I started to grow. I was mentored by Indigenous artists in Thunder Bay and Fort William First Nation, like Jean Marshall, Helen Pelletier, Rihkee Strapp, and Cree Stevens.” They also count non-Indigenous artist Lora Northway as a mentor.

Atlookan says their line of family portraits helped them see the strength and wisdom in their family. They want to use art to help youth see their inherent traditional knowledge.

Dumont is now focusing on a line of cellophane art called Queer CosPlay. Essentially, he takes coloured cellophane and creates a shape — a wig, an Elvis outfit, a COVID-19 virus — and adds multiple layers until he’s reached a desired colour and design. He enjoys the medium because it doesn’t bother his sensitivity to smell. He also still works with tiled mosaic, which he first used 20 years ago. “I found these sample boards on Simpson Street, behind a ceramic-bathroom-tile store, and these sample boards were just lying in the alley, with these beautiful colours,” he says. “I took them home on the bus; that’s what started me off at that first show.”

He’s now part of a mentorship program with the Arts AccessAbility Network of Manitoba.

He says art helps him manage his anxiety and helps him express his creative side. He learned to focus his energy on creating while he is pain-free, usually first thing in the morning. The act of creating, he says, relaxes and soothes his mind — it reminds him of his grandparents knitting in front of the television, which grounds him as he does the same, only with mosaics or cellophane: “I’m still doing that, working while I watch television.”

Correction: An earlier version of this article misspelled Michel Dumont’s first name. regrets the error.

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This Magazine → The art of looking past labels – This Magazine




From an early age, Hanan Hazime remembers being immersed in the arts. As a young child, she loved painting, dressing up in costumes, and creating elaborate stories. Now, at the age of 30, Hazime is a multidisciplinary artist whose work ranges from politically charged paintings to nature poetry. As a Lebanese-Canadian, non-neurotypical, and invisibly disabled, Shia Muslim woman, Hazime has had many personal encounters with gendered Islamophobia, racism, and ableism in her life. Her artwork often grapples with these issues and allows others to share and better understand a small part of her lived experiences.

“I wanted to dispel stigmas about Muslim women, about Arab women, about disabled or mad folk, because those are all my identities … My art is trying to show that first of all we exist, and that we matter. And that we can take up space and I think that’s very important to have that representation,” Hazime says.

In university, Hazime focused on raising awareness about a variety of human rights issues through demonstrations, protests, and organized change. However, she found that artwork seemed to be more effective in evoking the viewer’s emotions and raising awareness about social issues.

“Art is the way that I do my activism … I found that people have connected to me more through art, because art affects your soul and your heart and that’s where the change needs to happen,” she says.

While Hazime’s political paintings are important for her self-expression and educating others, Hazime explains that some of her non-political artwork is often rejected by exhibits and collectors as she becomes tokenized for her identity.

She recalls a specific incident where she had written a story about a woman who suspects a mermaid is living in her bathtub. The story was a magical tale exploring women’s sexuality and was rejected by literary publications as it didn’t explore any “-isms” or modes of oppression.

“They are always searching in my story for those ‘-isms’ because they’re automatically assuming that whatever I create is always going to be about these political issues that I’m facing. I can never exist as a human. I always have to exist as this political symbol,” she says.

Building on her passion for writing, Hazime is aiming to have her first novel published this spring. Growing up, Hazime had a difficult time seeing herself represented in mainstream media. She would read two books a day and never saw similar characters reflected in these novels.

“The younger generation, when they look up and they see a Muslim woman creating art, they’re going to think ‘I can create art too. I can write a novel. I can write poetry. I matter. My voice matters,’” she says.

The plot of her novel-in-progress, Unmoored, centres around a Lebanese-Canadian teenager named Zaynab who struggles with mental illness while navigating high school culture. The book is very loosely based on Hazime’s own experiences growing up in a working-class family and not having access to therapy, which she hopes portrays the realities of mental illness for the less privileged.

“It’s basically a book that I would have loved when I was 16. I’m writing it for my past self,” she says.

While Hazime’s work often touches on serious issues dealing with her identity, she explains that she is able to move beyond society’s focus on “-isms” and see people for who they truly are.

“I’m looking beyond race, gender, ability, and class and all those social constructs…. The skin that I’m in is just a shell that I’m in temporarily in this world,” she says.

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